Great information nick.kister, and through that last link you provided, I was able to piece together all the parts that I needed, unfortunately, only the site from your first link had all of the required components in stock and didn't require a HUGE minimum quantity (
Onlinecomponents.com | Distributor of Electronic Components)...total for all that I needed, including 2 extra pins and seals in case I screwed up, was only $10.36, BUT they have a $30 minimum order with $6.95 in shipping.
So, it looks like I will be going with deutsch connectors on both sides after all.
Thanks again for you help!